I have been taking some time off from writing, and to those of you who have emailed me, concerned as to what is going on, I have only been on a short break. It did mean a lot to me receiving your emails and inquiries. Things are fine here in Bunny Land.
We are planning a vacation and have chosen the Caribbean for our destination. I found a beautiful villa which idyllically meets our needs, in St. James, Barbados.
What is important to us is privacy and the beach. I didn’t realize until last weekend my husband wanted Internet provisions also. This is a change from the first criteria where internet was forbidden. Realistically though, the internet is part of the family and a means of communication between us and our clients. Gotta love the clients… right?
I suppose most women would be insulted. I mean why does he need the computer when he has me? The fact is that is where he works. He is a responsible man so I can’t just ask him to give up communication to his clients for two weeks, right?
If my husband and I had picked a simpler life, I suppose the internet would be a problem on vacation; but after thinking things through, we have a business with clients who depend upon us.
Thumper always puts me first and seriously his clients are who got us here in the first place. Mine too. My clients are low maintenance compared to his. So I have to give in to the annoying f-mail.
Every once in a while there is a mail from one of his clients who asks how to install a website after he has written them step by step instructions. He ends up having to install most websites he makes. Just the other day one of his clients uploaded a zip folder without unzipping it first.
This is a good client just in over his head with all this extremely complicated and highly sophisticated rocket science stuff like websites, the interwebz, puters and such. Granted the one thing I love about Thumper’s job is he can do it from anywhere.
All that is required is his computers and the internet. How great is that!
I would have to say one of his hats is babysitting his clients so they have the full benefit of his work. Some clients just don’t know how to set up all the functions he makes. His applications are so hi-tech. I am very proud of him.
Back to our vacation. I believe because we are entrepreneurs we have to sacrifice some things, even during vacations.
I know, I wont be ignored completely. I am only packing beachwear and dresses. He will take out the computer once in a while only to check his email. No heavy jobs. This is one of the compromises you make to be happy and make your partner and spouse happy too. I found this out to work in our case.
A good man is hard to find, and when you have one, it does seem you have to make plans that you would not have to make if you only married a guy who decided to be something and not someone. I have thought about this quote several times today. When you want to make a difference in this world, you figure out what little things don’t really matter in the string of happiness. The simple truth is my husband is important and needs to be reachable by his clients. I have him all the time and I am truly a very lucky woman. I mean how many people get it right the first time around? How many years does it take to figure out how it works with marriage?
I think not rushing into marriage was my best decision. I worked on me and became independent. When I got married I knew who I was and who would compliment me. My husband compliments me like no other and I have kept my individuality at the same time. Keeping your individuality is very important for growth. You don’t want to live in anyone’s shadow including your husband’s. What you need to understand – you can’t have the storybook romance unless you put down the rules in the script. The rules aren’t going to be inspired by a movie you have watched recently, or the circle of friends you keep.
As an individual, you know what you want and how to get it. If you are not materialistic or needy, it becomes very clear that certain things aren’t needed to be happy. It is all a matter of lifestyle and what you are used to. I am self-disciplined – that doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy luxury when I am on vacation. But I’m not materialistic because I don’t like clutter in my space. I am not high maintenance because I have a husband that exceeds my expectations. I know I exceed his also. A woman can have a career and the love life. It only takes the right man by her side, who is her equal. How is that?
Don’t base your life on a movie or how your friends think it should be. You are the only one that can make it happy and make it happen. Be the leading lady or man of your life and don’t follow a movie script written for people’s entertainment.
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