Everyone knows when you get a group of women get together without their significant others they turn into creatures or as my beloved calls us frigid bitches. I would have to say we are more on the cynical side, well, the unmarried ones anyways.

Why that?

Well some of my friends who have chosen to remain single have become very comfortable with their decision to remain spouse-free. All career women and some are single parents. The age group is 31 up to 35 years young and happy with their life decisions.These career minded independent women whom have either forfeited the marriage card but opted for motherhood without a full time father around.

It has bothered me for sometime, that the institution of marriage has weakened to the standards where divorce is inevitable to our generation and we are choosing single life over commitment. Marriage is committing to one person. Is it realistic to think either sex can ignore temptation for the majority of their adult life? It is too me.Looking at the big picture, I think single life sucks but that is my opinion.

Yet some of my friends make a pretty good argument that marriage is an unrealistic commitment that we set our self up for heartache and disappoint. They are really very nice, strong and intelligent women who have decided not to have the traditional lifestyle of their mom and grand-momma. I respect their decision but I like some of the traditional ways when it comes to marriage any ways. It is just not for me. I know the importance of having my father around all the time and want that for my children.

I feel it is important for women to have careers outside of the homemaker and motherhood. It is like a security blanket but must of all very life fulfilling for a woman who wants to do her own thing besides contribute to the household financially. Having a career or job is great I can imagine it has to be harder when you have children it becomes more of a balancing act. The truth is more women are choosing independence over dependence on a martial partner. We have come a long way, baby!

Recently I took a cruise with a couple of girlfriends and it is funny how once we get together the lapse of time disappears and it is almost like being in college again. The free spirited Bunny comes out but don’t take me wrong here,  I’m very committed to  my vows to Thumper, seriously, especially with these chicks. I came home missing and appreciating him even more.

A break from everyday life is great even separate vacations when you are in a relationship actually is good for everyone involved since you can bring new experiences to the table and strengthen the bonds between you and your significant other.

As for my peeps, I still love them although I don’t agree with them they’re still a fun group to party with. These women are strong and very confident which make them more gutsy when they let their hair down faster then then the rest. So frigid isn’t really a typical characteristic of my friends on vacation. It is more what happens on the cruise stays on the boat unless you’re a lame duck like me.

In a way this Bunny felt more like a duck out of water most of the time. There weren’t so many awkward moments caused by being on an all female retreat among couples on cruise, as much as I just wasn’t all that into so much water in a tiny boat in the middle of the Ocean without Thumper! It seemed to be a constant reminder my heart was with my husband and physically with with girlfriends I have shared years of pleasure and pain with.

My most embarrassing moment was wiping out trying to surf on the Flow Rider on board the ship. There were 3 different islands we visited once we boarded in Fort Lauderdale first stop in the  Florida Keys, Key Largo, Ocho Rios, then Montego Bay.

Most memorable the Dunn’s Water Falls. One of natures most beautiful places. The day we were there I was more into enjoying myself and hanging out with the girls. This picture of the falls is cool you can actually walk up the rocks and yes it is very slippery but memorable experience. It was a natural majestic display of God’s artistry.

I didn’t  go shopping much as I said many times before I hate shopping except food shopping  but we did go to the Internet cafes to check emails. Yeah, I know I was on vacation but the girls still had to check on their kids and I wanted to see if Thumper emailed me.

We only had access to our cell phones and the Internet when we were docked. I have to say I didn’t have a huge problem not having a phone or computer at bay.

It was Thumper, I missed madly.

I have to admit once I decided to go on this holiday I was counting the days when I would be returning home and back to having my life as I know it.  I did enjoy being with the girls and all the college/post college nostalgia. I have known these women long before Thumper after all.

I thought it was interesting the change in music and diet when I was with my girlfriends. Have you ever noticed how the music and scenery affects you. We heard a lot of pop and ate a lot of Caribbean foods. I drank Ice teas for the most part and loved the deck lounging out on chase lounges. That was the best of time for me.

I decided not to drink  too much alcohol which was customary in my college days too. What really frightened us was the earthquake in Port- au- Prince, Haiti. We were told at dinner one evening  if a Tsunami occurred after the earthquake, the ship would head to the heart of it to avoid being hit against the side and tipping the boat over. Nope, I still didn’t drink after hearing that. Instead we discussed the movie Titanic and continued to be obnoxious and crazy .

It is inevitable to me sharing life experiences with friends makes for a gratifying life. The female friends that you can reminisce with about loosing  your virginity, landing a job or promotion or just the little stuff like the cute “leather jacket guy” sending you over a drink and flashing your wedding band at him when you wave and say thank you.

One of the most pain experiences shared was when a couple of friends lost babies or had miscarriages. We all huddled around the hospital lending support and understanding during the sadness.

I believe one of the most devastating experiences a woman can have is the lost of a child at anytime. This is pain is  shared by the couple but I have found understood best only by the people closest you. It can be haunting to you until someone inadvertently says something that strikes the deep core of your being.

I want to take this time to thank all my on-line acquaintances for emails, I have been fine and enjoying a much needed rest. Happy to be back and hoping to bring some new topics to you here on Bunny Got Blog.