So I admit I am a full fledge romantic. Especially in today’s society when a hand written card or letter appears to be obsolete. I love the idea that one has taken the time to express themselves with a hand written note - that’s so wonderful!

When it is from your significant other, even better. You find yourself reading it over and over, feeling happier each time. It becomes part of the nostalgic memoirs of your relationship that you chose to collect over the years. Which are priceless.

What I Do to Make Him Feel He Is Mine

I love taking time to do these little things for my man, and lucky me, he reciprocates. Lately it has been recording provocative greetings on his cell phone so when I call him or he uses the alarm he hears me saying something sexy. I have numerously emailed him a sexy picture of myself, in hopes he doesn’t open it in a business meeting.

He makes me a video or gives me a tear jerking love letter that he has written so passionately and lengthy. Not like my little love notes to him. The last one I read bursting into tears twice over the content confessing his love and devotion. I could tell that he was overwhelmed by my reaction as I was with his.

Stimulating For The Both of Us

It really helps when he is away on a business trip, but the little loving act should never be limited to just these times. I feel it is good to write love notes, and stick them in his back pocket, or place one in his bag so when he reaches for his pen he will find it and be so surprised. Even in the fold of his napkin at dinner time or inside his boxers. There are several places that can throw him off a bit and make him think about you and the last intimate moments you had.

It is the process of keeping the relationship fresh before turning in to stale bread. So keeping it simple, it doesn’t take much time. It is may seem childlike but is so meaningful and appreciated.

Meaningful And Appreciated

One of my girlfriends wrote the date with a permanent marker on her pregnancy tester (showing positive), then took a picture. She framed the picture before placing it in his sock drawer. How cool is that!

As a couple you have those special things. The favorite movie and song that belongs to you two. Mr. and Mrs. Smith and a cut from some rhythmic beach house tunes he had is ours.

So even sticking your favorite movie on his pillow or making a collection of your favorite songs to put in his car stereo will send him a message that you love him and want him to think about you. It doesn’t have to be a holiday to do something special and from the heart.

Even letting your imagination flow by writing down a steamy full detailed fantasy of the two of you making love on a tranquil sandy pink beach with the sounds of the ocean waves in the background - and the rest of the world has just disappeared for you.

Love Goes Through His Tummy, Too

I would have to say my favorite gift to my man is preparing a seafood platter with cheeses and fruits. Some oysters, jumbo shrimp, a vinaigrette and sliced lemons, mango and pineapple on the side. Champagne in your best crystal flutes with strawberries.

Create a relaxing sensual ambiance in the bathroom by placing several unscented candles with an incense oil burner with lavender oil around the room. Lavender relaxes the brain. Make him a luxurious hot bubble bath with some fresh towels laid out for him. I like to use white tall pillar candles and a few dark red rose petals and lavender oil in the tub with wine and white towels. Feed him, pamper him, show him how much you love and want him! The idea is to spoil him with the surprise. You may end up in the tub - that thats another story. I suggest you wear some sexy lingerie or just a robe…

You want to really blow his mind, agree to practice tantra and just sit naked - Indian style - across from each other. You are not to touch or massage any erogenous zone. Just kiss and touch. Aromas are essential here also. I suggest you use an edible massage oil or body paint if you can find one that you like. You may be able to find a recipe and then create your own delicious oil or paint. Mango or even guava. I can’t wait to draw on my fiance then lick it off. Massage each other until you reach the point of no return. Being completely comfortable with each other, and totally relaxed, is pure ecstasy.

Thing is: it isn’t all about you. He has his needs, too, and spoiling him is a great way to strengthen your bond.

I have mentioned the edible body paint and massage oil above and want to share my recipes with you in a follow-up post. Like I said, Ladies: You can bring him to his knees!

Update: Here’s a very simple way how to make edible body paint.