You know those times when you really want to lite a fire under someone’s ass to get them moving. They just keep procrastinating.

My theory is why put it off until tomorrow what you can do today. This attitude of mine hasn’t upset my fiance yet. Whom I’ve been trying to get to the DMV for the past two weeks. He just hates taking the time out of his work day to do things like this, even when he knows that they have to be done.

I must say I don’t want him to think identically to me. That would be boring and he is far from boring!

We all are aware of how timely those trips to DMV can be. Having to take precious time out of our busy day where we would be much happier somewhere else, or be more productive working. Instead, we have no other choice than to wait in line in order to speak with a clerk for five minutes to resolve the matter.

In all fairness to him, he did have good intentions of going last week. Unfortunately, an unforeseen occurrence happened. As he strolled down the street to the train station he was already deep in thought with the work load that was waiting for him at home. He followed the repetitious procedure of buying a ticket at the machine and waiting for the train before noticing that the terminal was empty, and the big sign stating the train wasn’t running that day over his head. I am sure that at that very moment when he observed his surroundings, it felt surreal to him.

On his way home, he texted me to tell me of his predicament, which to me was an easy fix: he just had to go on another day and check on the trains running. He was a little frustrated over the experience, but said he would go on Thursday. Well, that didn’t happen. He had worked late the night before, and then we stayed up even later. I woke him up early, knowing it was going to be a task getting him rousted about in time before the DMV closed, but he ended up needing to sleep in more.

I’m working on him about these issues. He has so much on his plate with his company and projects, that he often works long hours and has very little patience or desire to be torn away from his work. His time is of the upmost importance to him, so he structures it wisely. So when a curb ball gets thrown at him like going to DMV, it becomes burdensome for him.

It is still his responsibility - and mine as his fiancée- to give gentle pushes when he needs them. I will continue until he goes and gets R done.

Do you think I want to change or “improve” him? Well no, not at all. He is fine the way he is, besides it is one of the things that me as his partner has learned to identify about him. He so needs me!

I feel we compliment each other very well. His optimism erases my sometimes pessimistic outlook on certain things. He is more spontaneous to my having to be able to see past the big picture. Together, we share the same values and goals. Our differences make our life interesting and balanced. We are a team. A partnership which enhances each other but still allows us to be individuals who have discovered how to enrich each other’s lives, and uncover hidden attributes the other has.

We use each other to refuel - not only our love, but for the strength which is necessary in everyday life. Always bringing something new and interesting to the table, and giving gentle pushes when needed.

Now the plan is he goes on Monday. We will see what happens.