I become very agitated when I see young women not working to their full potential. Often smart and coming from well-to-do families, or maybe not so well off families - it doesn’t really matter where you come from. All that matters is making a commitment to yourself to gain the growth of experience and knowledge while you are still young and unattached. This commitment should be ubiquitious with all that you do, or you may end up with, let’s say, some idiotic endeavour for feminism.

Today’s Woman

It is a beneficial lesson for women in today’s society to be financially independent and to learn to live within our means. Taking the time to complete our education because there is always funding available for those who seek a career. Others are so overwhelmed by the adventures they encounter when growing up, and opt to pass on this opportunity. They are under the impression mommy and daddy are going to pay the bills indefinitely.

The recourse is to find other alternatives. A boyfriend, or other cohabitants to share expenses with. But I think that college, even if you work at the same time for a few years, and even if in the course of events college becomes part-time, is essential. No matter how much it seems to be out of reach, it is best to do it now rather than later, when the possibility of forced pursuit has become reality. After all, the future isn’t carved in stone.

It is sad when I think back to my college days. A few of the girls I grew up with were accepted at universities, but never completed their studies. Some chose marriage over education, obviously not looking past the obvious - to see the bigger picture -, but living in the moment. Others chose to start abusing drugs.

The Muppet Show: Highlight of Your Day?

Suddenly, these girls find themselves mentally unchallenged, for the most part; with the exception of Elmo, and potty training their children. Instead of returning to complete their studies, they settle for a mediocre job in order to make financial ends meet. The convenience of home study is available, of course, allowing you to work at your own speed on a tight schedule.

I would imagine this is one of the contributing factors for the divorce rate in this country. Where child rearing is so expensive, inevitably both parents have to work. There is little time to maintain a healthy relationship. You work so hard being wife, mommy and employee that there is little left of you by the end of the day. A viscous cycle that can spin you into exhaustion and depression.

I have a theory on this. When you do not feel complete, you often are misguided into believing that someone else will make you whole. In all honesty, as you get older, you realize that only you are responsible for your own happiness. Are you longing to be loved completely? You must be a complete person first. Love yourself first. Have self-respect first.

Aah, Romance…

We all have our romantic fantasies. The loving husband, the kids and the big house. But hey, let’s be realistic: we need to work too. We should not be dependent on our significant other to take on the financial responsibilities. Also, marring for convenience is no way to go. You rush in, thinking it will work out and he is going to take care of you. Childlike and needy, years later you feel stuck; living your life through him and in his shadow. Your self-esteem is null, and you discover that he has denied you the rite to grow. You become resentful and act out. Usually the sex becomes obsolete, and you argue over everything.

Your perception of how you dreamed your life would turn out is slowly and sadly drowning you in a bath of self-pity. The littlest thing, such as watching a movie with your husband, makes you cry over love scenes proclaiming “this is how it should be”. Also (on a related note) people sometimes tend not to realize that movies are only entertainment, fictional stories, and not real life. Part of you is still that young girl who went from high school to wife and never endeavored real life’s experiences. Becoming more and more rebellious because while you are being treated like an adolescent, the mere sight of him is a constant reminder of your needs of fulfillment. As time passes by, the relationship is corroded with resentment. Often these wounds have become terminal.

Wanna Work from Home? Not?

At some point, he reluctantly comes to the conclusion that work could appease you, and he allows you to get a job. “Allow” is a crucial word here, because by this time, you have matured and realized there is more to your life than your demure stay-at-home wife. You are abundantly becoming more resentful being treated like a child.

When finally gaining some freedom and self-respect for yourself, a possible affair at the office arises. It starts out innocently but builds as you become your own person. This man sees you as a totally different woman. Your husband’s image of you hasn’t changed much, except for the recognition you have gained as becoming unruly and unsatisfied in the relationship. You desire a man and not a father figure as your significant other. Sadly, the marriage ends in divorce.

We must stay focused on education and self-preservation in order to accomplish our goals first, before we fall victim to this scenario. If you want to be a business woman, why not work hard and become that first before you destroy your potential without ever leaving the starting gate? This at least is my opinion - what are your thoughts?