I ran across a couple of things today that strike me funny. You know when you have that boss or client that is coming a little too strong, and you just want to keep your composure without compromising your dignity or self-respect? Well, there is a fine line between sexual harassment and innocent flirting. We as business women know how, at times, men have their testosterone levels plummeting, and we fall vitally to questionable remarks and looks that are embarrassing, to say the least. Most of us don’t welcome a long lingering stare from a man when you are only in his presence for business, and nothing else.

I tend to feel most women are more than capable of holding ‘their own’ in these situations. We are capable of not encouraging this behavior! Professionalism in a world where you have to associate with many men who are questioning your savvy, as well as undressing you as you discuss what you can do for their company. This makes you feel uncomfortable, thus you want to end the business meeting as soon as you can without thoroughly presenting the reasons you are there for to begin with.

But here’s the deal ladies. You can’t allow the guys to intimidate you this way! Continue on your course and don’t lose perspective. Running to your boss is only going to make you look as though you can’t handle the job you were hired to do. You have to toughen up.

Even in our relationship with our significant other, sometimes we feel more like a sex object. But I don’t think they really want us to feel this way. It is still a very complex area and if you have to deal with it in the workplace, then come home and have your mate jump on you – - you may start to doubt your true value.

Sex is wonderful, and to be desired by your man when you return his feelings is even better. The whole thing is being able to differentiate the come-ons and the turn-offs. You have to remember you have a mate who is important in every aspect of your life. At least that is how it should be. A healthy sex life is important, and you should have a common sex drive or it just won’t work.

Now I am not saying sex is the most important thing in a relationship, but an added benefit. If one of the two isn’t being fulfilled sexually, you can be assured of problems. You also need to know not to bring home the frustrating business associates with you. If you choose to discuss it with your man, he is going to show his protective side, and maybe the Neanderthal. He wants to protect what is his. You end up feeling like a piece of property instead of the love of his life.

Here’s something that will make you laugh. Click on the image to enlarge…

I have to say when I read the joke about the woman in the boat, I could relate. When I showed it to my fiance, he told me it sounded like me. That made me feel very good because I know he knows I can take care of myself.

That Nasty Taste In Your Mouth

When I have a jerk client that is too interested in my personal life, a red flag goes up. I find myself playing down my appearance more, and being very tactful. I shouldn’t have to do this, but I find that it works when men are trying to get a little too friendly. As far as I am concerned, my personal life and my professional career are separate, and I am not working to meet men. Instead, I am working to enjoy the comfort of my beloved one, and one day have a family with him. So these jerks: you have to take them for who they are. I really think that men have the same problem but are not privy to it. I really think that it could become an issue with more women learning how to handle matters like these.

The Dr. Ruth Email

Again, click on the image to the right for a good laugh. This was what made my day. I noticed the scribbling, and the humor of it as soon as I saw it was written to Dr. Ruth Westheimer, famous sex therapist and an authority on human sexuality.

Dr. Ruth is very tiny in stature; she has an enormous personality bringing out the humorous side to sexuality along with the facts. She was born in Frankfurt, Germany in 1928. She left Germany in 1939 because of the war; she was sent to Switzerland, and later moved to Israel at the age of 16 where she joined the military to fight for Israel’s independence. She was trained to be a guide and sharp shooter. She was seriously wounded in 1948. After months of recovery, she was able to walk again. She then studied psychology in France, and later started teaching at the University of Paris. In 1956, she came to the United States.

She furthered her education at Columbia University, where she received her masters in sociology and her PhD in education. Then, Dr. Ruth did post-doctoral work at the prestigious New York Presbyterian Hospital on human sexuality. She has been a lecturer and professor at New York University and Princeton. She has received awards twice for College Lecturer of the Year, a honorary doctorate degree from Trinity College in 2004, and the Medal for Distinguished Service from Columbia University. In the 1980s, she ventured into radio and later television. She has also published many books. Here is a link to the Dr Ruth Westheimer Web Page: Dr. Ruth.com – Get Some!

I was taken back when I read the email to Dr. Ruth. When I decided to write this article, I had no idea of everything this remarkable little lady has achieved in her eighty years. She is truly a gift to us all.

As far as my take on the email, I laughed my butt off and I thought I can only wish this is how my fiance’s sexuality will remain in twenty some years from now. I find this humorous only because after the children and age process the man still comes to his wife.

That is how it is supposed to be. You bear his children and remain his lover. Staying fit and desirable to him. Although most men know and accept child birth to be a natural change to a woman’s body, and they know they are the reason for it and considerate their mark on their territory.

Have you ever experienced male intimidation in business, girls?